Sometimes, even the strongest people feel heavy inside. Our sons, our husbands, our fathers—they may not always show it, but they have struggles too. In fact, many autistic boys and men struggle due to difficulty expressing emotions. Autism often magnifies the internalization of stress.
Additionally, Dr. Tara Borsh from Boys Town, Nevada, often explains that one of the most harmful beliefs people hold is the idea that men should simply “tough it out” when they’re going through something difficult. She teaches that true emotional strength doesn’t come from silence. This is contrary to how Autistic individuals are often expected to “act normal” or hide their differences, mirroring the social pressure men feel to “tough it out.”
Health experts have noticed a heartbreaking pattern
What is more shocking, Health experts have noticed a heartbreaking pattern: men are losing their lives to suicide much more often than women. Not just Autistic, but generally many men. Even though women may try to harm themselves more often, men tend to use more dangerous methods, so sadly, their attempts are more likely to end in death.
The issue affects people of all ages, backgrounds, and walks of life. Whether it’s a young boy withdrawing at school, a teen acting out in frustration, or a grown man quietly battling stress behind a smile—unspoken pain can show up in many forms. That’s why recognizing the signs and opening up safe spaces for conversation matters now more than ever.
Among the signs that a man or boy may be struggling are things that many people often miss: anger that feels disproportionate, pulling away from loved ones, persistent tiredness or trouble sleeping, increased drinking, or expressing hopeless or irritable thoughts.
Kindness could open the door to real healing.
These aren’t just bad habits or phases—they can be quiet signals that someone is hurting inside. When we notice with care and respond without judgment, we give that person something powerful: the chance to feel seen, supported, and not alone. A small moment of kindness could open the door to real healing.
This month, Boys Town is gently reminding families that it’s okay for men to talk about their feelings. Being honest about stress, sadness, or worry doesn’t make someone weak—it makes them wise.
Boys Town’s counselors will support—not just with kind words, but with real tools that can help boys and men feel better and live healthier, calmer lives.
Courage to ask for help
At the Nevada Autism Center, we recognize the profound importance of this message because we see it every day. Many of the boys and men we serve carry quiet burdens, often intensified by the challenges of autism. Emotional struggles don’t always manifest in the same way, especially in those who perceive the world differently.
We want to echo what Boys Town is saying: real strength is asking for help. Real courage is sharing what hurts.
If you or a loved one on the autism spectrum is struggling with emotions, behavior, or mental health, you are not alone. Reach out to us. We’re here to help.
